One of the sayings I have heard from many sources is a quote from Tony Robbins that “success leaves clues.”
And before I go on to explain what that means, I want you to know that you are perfect the way you are. Do not become a clone of someone else. Your goal is to be the best version of you that you can be.
Now, what “success leaves clues” means:
There are people who are what you want to be or have done what you want to do or have what you want to have. Maybe that is to be financially free or travel the world or hire a cleaning lady or swim in your backyard pool (that you don’t have yet because you live in an apartment and there isn’t a pool) or… whatever it is that you want to be, do, or have.
Find those people or even that one person.
Study what that person has done to get what he/she wanted to become, do, or have, and you want to be, do or have.
And then model it.
When you are studying, I want you to look for the steps that were taken to be successful. I also want you to learn what steps were taken that were not successful. You will learn just as much, if not more, by learning from other people’s mistakes. And that will also save you some time on your path to success.
For example, I have a desire to be paid to travel internationally. There are many ways I could have done this. I could have become a flight attendant, a pilot, or an au pair to a wealthy family who traveled, or I could have joined the army. None of these really appealed to me. The flight attendant idea was interesting for a bit, however, the layover time was short. When I go to Paris, I want to stay for a week or more. I want to breathe in the culture and not feel rushed to see everything in two days. I want to eat at all of the restaurants I have been reading about. I want to shop in that cute little boutique that was mentioned in a blog I follow. And I have been to Paris before. Twice, actually.
So I had to find a new way. And when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. I found a coach who does exactly what I want to do. I followed her for about a year and then I worked with her for a year. By ‘working’ with her, I mean I coached with her and I applied my ninja observation skills to learn everything I could about how she does what she does. And now I offer Destination VIP Intensives.
Certainly, during the year that we worked together, I observed the occasional error or mistake. That is all part of the education process for me. Do this, do not do that, or when I do this, remember to do this other thing to make sure it goes smoothly.
So, find a proven model, duplicate it, and implement it. Only choose one model. Another of my coaches says: pick one bunny. If you are chasing multiple bunnies, you won’t catch any. Choose one. Implement. If that model isn’t working for you, make adjustments. Then, if necessary, find another model to follow.
One of my mastermind colleagues just realized that by following this system, she no longer had a dream to strive for because she was living it. Imagine that. When you run out of dreams, you make a new one, which is what she did.
In summary: Success leaves clues. Study someone who has success in what you want to be, do, or have. Learn what works and what does not work. Implement. Achieve your desire. Make a new dream.